Welcome to Keys to Power

These are three tools I want every woman on earth to master:  to ask powerfully for what they want; to navigate hearing no; and to get off the spot when under pressure.

These simple, short videos will give you concepts and tools that I think are so valuable that I want you to have them, for free.

Because the world needs you.  Your voice.
The time is now.

The no-win situation of being afraid to appear either too bossy/bitchy/angry or needy/weak/weak creates a compressed state in our bodies that compromises our sense of legitimacy as women in the world.

In a fundamental sense, all human beings are equal.  In day-to-day experience, however, all human beings play roles relative to each other.

  • A teacher exists relative to his students

  • A leader exists relative her followers

  • Etc . . . 

The many different roles possible in the human experience can fundamentally be broken into Dominant and Submissive.

  • A good teacher is dominant relative to their students

  • Students are submissive relative to their teacher.
     

  • A good leader is dominant relative to her followers

  • Followers are submissive relative to the leader.

Dominant and Submissive Roles exist not only in terms of functional dyads (Father/Son, Teacher/Student), but in every single interaction with another human being, as in the case of a conversation:

One person speaks, the other person listens, and then there is a switch.

The fundamental unit of measurement in a power dynamic is attention.

The Domme gives attention and instruction.

The Sub receives attention and instruction.

When a dynamic feels stuck, it is often because the switching between Dominant and Submissive roles is no longer fluid within the context of that dynamic.

For example, imagine that one person in the dynamic gives constant instruction with no regard for how the other person is responding.

Imagine a leader who only focuses attention on himself.  Although he is in a hierarchically dominant position, his state is fundamentally submissive.  

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