Think about what this means in the context of a business, or in the context of a relationship. What happens has nothing to do with connection. It’s simple acquiescence. When your orders are contrary to the best interests of the individual, this is the recipe for tyranny. Over a long enough period of time it results in total shutdown and, ultimately, rebellion.
An employee does what he’s asked, but nothing more: his engagement plummets. A loved one says, ‘yes, dear’ but their heart isn’t there anymore: they’re just going through the motions and, other than their obedience, their own individual contribution to the dynamic is nowhere to be seen.
And of course, eventually, the subjects of the despotic tyrant object. At that point, the tyrant begins to apply force in order to squash resistance.
This is the model of control and coercion that we have in the world today and it is responsible for so much of what’s wrong in our world, between men and women, and between different social groups.