The Academy

The Academy teaches women to increase power, agency and influence in all areas of their lives. 

We give women practical tools to get what they want, break the yoke of cultural good girl conditioning and embrace their roles as leaders in their relationships, families, workplaces, and wider communities.

Founded in 2013 by Kasia Urbaniak and Ruben Flores, The Academy teaches our students to identify and move stuck, seemingly intractable relationship dynamics with the people closest to them. They also train to defend themselves from mansplaining, harassment, gaslighting and other attacks on their personal power and authority.

The Academy gives women the ability to ask for exactly what they want in a way that feels good to the person being asked. They learn how to hear “no” without getting flustered or giving up. They make bigger, bolder, potentially life-changing asks of the people around them. Students of The Academy have completely reshaped their lives just from making significant asks of the people around them.

Rather than presenting its students with a series of performance-based tricks or vague instructions rooted in self-help pop psychology, classes at The Academy emphasize live roleplays with men, training new and powerful patterns of behavior.

Until recently, The Academy existed as a word-of-mouth-only institution, offering small, intimate classes that sold out without advertising.

In the aftermath of Trump’s election and due to the demand from the student body, The Academy has decided to bring its work and message to a wider audience.