When I say Good Girl Conditioning, and your Inner Good Girl, many of you will know exactly what I'm talking about.

You will know exactly what I'm talking about because you will have felt trapped by her, you will have been like, “Why am I being so nice to somebody who literally is destroying my life?”

Some of you may not be so sure, and wondering what's wrong with being good?

First thing, this has nothing to do with being good. This has to do with this almost instantaneous, autoresponse, infuriating behaviour, that almost all women have. That you may think it's just individually your deal, your problem, your psychological issue, your history, your family damage, your blah, blah, blah…

But every single woman that I've trained, every single woman that I've taught, from the most powerful women in the world, your mind would be blown if you heard what they confessed about the level of self betrayal, self doubt, self attack, self abandonment, self exclusion.

You don't over apologize, or over explain, or have bad boundaries or lose your identity in love, or go into a brain fog around money because something happened to you, because it's your individual thing to work out with a therapist.

This was created socially. And must be broken down socially with social approval.

This Good Girl Conditioning, this damned if you do, damned if you don't. You're too much and too little. That that rock and hard place stuff.

We don't have a world that's fair to women yet. But we've internalised this conditioning. And I can't change all of the circumstances and sexism, and laws out there in the world. But one thing I'm an expert at 100% is I can break apart the way it's internalised in you. So you stop saying yes when you mean no, so you stop settling for crumbs, you stop overworking and under earning.

And that is what we're talking about when we're talking about Good Girl Conditioning.

Because if you can change it in you and unleash that power in you first, then the rest of the game is easy. But if we change everything on the outside first, but we're still trapped within, where's the reward? What's the point?

So when we say Inner Good Girl, we don't mean the part of us that loves, that stands for what is right and true and pure. We're talking about the part of us that was conditioned to be marriageable, to not be a burden, to not rock the boat and ruffle feathers. Because that was the role of women in society for millennia, and times have changed and so have we, and now it's time for the internal Good Girl Prison Break.