Welcome to Keys to Power

These are three tools I want every woman on earth to master:  to ask powerfully for what they want; to navigate hearing no; and to get off the spot when under pressure.

These simple, short videos will give you concepts and tools that I think are so valuable that I want you to have them, for free.

Because the world needs you.  Your voice.
The time is now.

The no-win situation of being afraid to appear either too bossy/bitchy/angry or needy/weak/weak creates a compressed state in our bodies that compromises our sense of legitimacy as women in the world.

At The Academy, we believe in a beautiful ideal that all human beings are created equal.

But in a given context, people play roles relative to each other. And the many different roles possible in the human experience can fundamentally be broken into Dominant and Submissive.

• A good teacher is dominant relative to their students

• Students are submissive relative to their teacher.
   

• A good leader is dominant relative to her followers

• Followers are submissive relative to the leader.

Dominant and Submissive Roles exist in every single interaction with another human being, as in the case of a conversation:

One person speaks, the other person listens, and then there is a switch.

The Domme gives attention and instruction.

The Sub receives attention and instruction.

When a dynamic feels stuck, it is often because the switching between Dominant and Submissive roles is no longer fluid within the context of that dynamic.

Under duress, men are most likely to get stuck in the outward dominant state. And under pressure, women are more likely to get stuck in the inward submissive state. Why? Because of how we were raised differently. 

If women are to not just have power, but wield and speak power, we must first make visible the invisible power dynamics, and then learn to fluidly switch where the attention is going.

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